Comments on Scientific Nature of the Whammy: The Pregnancy Issue

Having 2 kids isn't really being a "baby ...

2011-12-13T20:32:08.589-08:00

Having 2 kids isn't really being a "baby machine." If you don't choose to have children, that's fine. Some people don't. I have always wanted to be a mother, but I don't romanticize it at all. It's really hard sometimes. It's not always fun. But the moments that are fun make it worth it. If you feel that strongly about not having children, I don't think that anyone can explain anything that will make you change your mind.

Wow. With all the "extra" kids running a...

2011-12-07T15:08:21.881-08:00

Wow. With all the "extra" kids running around, and rampant overpopulation, you would think people would stop being baby machines. I appreciate the Romanticism you ladies have about children. For me, it is nothing but the tearing out of my vagina and soul. I would love it if you ladies enlightened me.

i think you should jsut start trying on your own. ...

2008-09-15T12:32:00.000-07:00

i think you should jsut start trying on your own. it took me 3 years and 3 rounds of IUI"s with my first son. With my second we decided to try on our own for a bit and one month later i was knocked up...they often say pregnancy fixes the things that were wrong before...what have you got to lose trying?

Oh goodness...I don't even know where to begin wit...

2008-09-14T19:02:00.000-07:00

Oh goodness...I don't even know where to begin with this.

I have four. Twins who are 18, a 15 year old and my 2.5 year old who was this huge blessing. 3 years before getting pregnant with her, I went through chemo for the treatment of breast cancer. Was told that my chances of getting pregnant were slim.

Lo and behold I got pregnant.

Something inside me, maybe it is my age (I'm not young) told me this was it. I don't know. I am totally comfortable with my decision, although there are times when I worry that she is, for all intents and purposes, an only child. Her siblings are far too much older than her to have that sort of close bond that children born closer together (and really, 3-4 years isn't too bad) have. But we can devote time and attention to her...yes, that's selfish. But it's what works for us.

There are times though, when I see a newborn and that old desire to hold another one, and smell that incredible smell and drench myself in the newness of life, almost overtakes me.

Then the Little Imp walks in and tells me she just pooped and I am once again, slapped back into reality!

I am four years older than my sister, and I love h...

2008-09-14T06:42:00.000-07:00

I am four years older than my sister, and I love her to bits.

I know what you mean about hesitating. The Poo is almost four and things were just getting easier when we had the baby this summer.

It was a decision that I had to make decisively and stick to it, and many days while pregnant it seemed like a terrible idea.

But it goes w/o saying how much I love my baby boy.

Wishing you luck and peace in your heart.

A tough decision, but also such a personal one. I ...

2008-09-12T22:38:00.000-07:00

A tough decision, but also such a personal one. I understand the cost issue, too, and that's why I'm not a mama. Maybe I will be someday, but it's getting less likely, and I'd guess it would just be one. I think I'd be OK with that, but that's just for me standing in my shoes. I bet if you discuss it a little and then wait a little the right answer will come.

My personal opinion: the closer together, the bett...

2008-09-12T17:53:00.000-07:00

My personal opinion: the closer together, the better. Mine are 22 months apart and that's been perfect. Too much space, and they'll be at each other's throats 24/7 like I was with my brother [6 years younger] and sister [12 years younger].

Many years ago I had a daughter and I was through ...

2008-09-12T09:42:00.000-07:00

Many years ago I had a daughter and I was through -- then 3 years 9months later I had a second daughter after my husband begged me for a second child. Then God decided I needed a thrid daughter (and he was right) and 13 months later she was born. I obviously didn't face the challenge of infurtility so I can't help you there. But I can tell you that all three girls are very close now. The nearly 4 years between the fist and second don't seem to matter and even when they were younger we made it work. Love is all that is really needed.

I have one and wanted two. Now I'm afraid I'm don...

2008-09-12T07:37:00.000-07:00

I have one and wanted two. Now I'm afraid I'm done (biologically), plus having an older husband who wants the snip-snip. How are couples supposed to navigate around a yes or no issue? It is hard to not feel resentful. Plus, we had a pretty easy time getting pregnant the first time but then spent years not getting pregnant afterward (even tho everyone says, oh, be careful if you don't want another!!). Frustrating.... Sounds like you have time. I'm all in favor of the "oops" baby!!